Realizing Difference and Simularities

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Same and Different

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As I sit here sipping a warm cup of cocoa and looking out at the Trees on the Verge of bursting with their Fall Colors, I realize as I am getting close to being a half century old, I am confidentially realizing the differences and similarities of this daughter and her mother

Sure your sitting there reading this and thinking that all daughters turn out like their mothers, don’t be Fooled, Blinded or Gullible. All women are unique in their own ways yet take on the same roles generation after generation.  

The two things my mind wonders to lately, as for as differences and similarities the men we married and the communities we each live in now.

  1. She married an educated man, that wasted some of the education benefits by allowing a substance such as alcohol to run his life and decisions.
  2. I married a not so educated man, that accepted different opportunities…

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Sidewalk to long

This “Sidewalk” is not used any longer by the man with lung disease.
These days he prefers to just remain inside.

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Looking at a sidewalk everyday you think things such as; at least I’m not walking in mud or maybe who clears the wintry stuff that will soon fall.

But when you’re a care-giver of someone with lung disease, you must look at this sidewalk as an obstacle in their lives. I am always the positive one here at home, I see it as the path I must walk to remove the garbage from my home and to get over to the mailboxes. A spouse with lung disease sees it as a very mile long hike to get to his vehicle, although it is actually three minutes to the dumpster and back to our front door. Walking down this sidewalk is actually a good thing, if he would just consider at least he is not stuck in bed yet.

  

“Sidewalk.” Merriam-Webster.com. Merriam-Webster, n.d. Web. 6 Sept. 2016.

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Overwhelmed by Solitude

This is not only my most popular blog post of the year, but it was also shared on another blog. Solitude is real these days. As we move into colder weather and he feels ill more often,

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At this stage of Midlife and being a caregiver for a spouse with lung disease I am always Overwhelmed with Solitude. There is two specific reasons for this Overwhelming feeling.

First of all the sadness of future solitude. There are days I can not even look at couples holding hands or even pictures of friends out on dates.  I don’t say a thing, just smile. It isn’t their fault or even jealousy, it just part of facing the future of solitude. At this stage of care-giving you have a thousand secret thoughts each day. 

Second of the two is my personal Solitude, I absolutely appreciate sitting by the lake all alone with a good book or just my thoughts. The Overwhelmed part of Solitude here is the guilt. Thought of do I deserve this time in the sun by the water while my spouse sits inside…

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New Beginnings

Well here we are almost October, the writing goals out way the fishing goals for sure. Care-giving has proving to be difficult at times. It will just get tougher the sicker he becomes.

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Happy 2017! Here it is January 10th already and yes my mind is thinking about telling the whole world that the girl has Gone Fishing not sure when she’s returning. The winds are gusting outside and rattling things all around.

New year brings New beginnings so they say, so one of my new beginnings is committing to writing at least one post a week. Would love to do a post a day but Care-giving does not always allow the time for such dreams. 

Another New beginnings is to learn more about the sport of fishing and learn to find an enjoyable way to do that alone. The things I need to explore are as follows;

  1. Experiment with different rods and reels
  2. Learning more about running our boats
  3. Learning the depths of our community lakes
  4. Experiment with different types of bait

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Another New beginnings is more successful nature walks and…

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