As she sits alone on the bank with fishing rod in hand her mind drifts back to the summer’s spent packing up the pick-up truck and boat for a few days of escape.
Escape meant the strong man she is a caregiver for now (caregiver-of-a-strong-man) was able to clear his mind of un-shared troubles that life through his way each day. Also she could clear her mind and reorganize the changes she may need to accomplish. During the two hour drive down to the Escape they would debate over his classic rock and her country music.
Upon arrival to the cabin; his number one thing to do was make the room cold enough she would need an Eskimo coat to survive the stay. Although her number one thing to do was to set up the kitchen; her mind raced of ways to get him on the boat tonight before dark.
Stay tuned to see if she gets them underway and which seat is her favorite.
Making modifications’ to a home anytime of life is scary to say the least. If your fifty years old or older thoughts are racing through your mind of is this my last chance to make changes? Do I have the resources to handle what goes wrong?
This Midlife couple is attempting to live with those thoughts while making modifications’ to two properties. Yes you read that correctly. Two. We downsized from the home we raised our family in…to the cozy condo; because of his health. He foolishly rented that homestead to a relative for three years and needless to say received it back in an unsellable condition. Now She and the adult kids along with him have agreed it is no longer their home and She will not spend her remaining years on earth after he passes alone in solitarily confinement.
Currently today the third day of June….the roof of the homestead is being completed. In about another week French doors get installed in cozy condo. Yep if your in your Midlife years you might be holding your breath…You are definitely NOT Alone. Stay tuned for adventures of Remodeling in Midlife.
Is Hospitality a thing of the past? I imagine if you are in your midlife years you have wondered this question once or twice. I can not give precise answers just an opinion based on the younger generations I deal with day to day and year to year.
Based on most of them My honest opinion is that they are loosing that part of what other generations haveconsidered Hospitality. I ask again is hospitality a thing of the past?
Do you remember coming to Grandma’s for Christmas and snatching some Christmas Fudge off dessert tables? Do you remember Sunday Family Dinners with Fried Chicken, mashed potatoes, gravy, corn on the cob and of course biscuits? That is hospitality to someone in my generation.
Today’s younger generation’s say there is no time for home cooking and house cleaning. Life is to fast pace and full of gadgets. A reminder this is just one person’s opinion but as a Mom and A Grandma…I enjoy my visits better if I feel welcomed and the place is full of warmth and hospitality.
So do you think Hospitality is a thing of the Past?
Are you married? Have you ever noticed how your dominate color reveals who you are in the world? Look at the picture above. Gray wolf surrounded by a type of red leafs. That is defiantly Two very different color wheels. This Caregiver and her Spouse are These two very different color wheels.
The weekend had arrived once again. As a couple they just needed to tell the world goodbye and headed down south. Saturday morning arrived and it was time to back the hitch up into the water, untie all the cable and rope. Step until the AstroTurf get a coozie lets go kind of day. They accepted it would be a fine day.
Arriving back to shore and loading up there was an uneasy feeling hoovering over, she instinctively knew something wasn’t quite right. In the room he was quiet, almost a distant quiet and dozing in his chair. THAT evening he caught a chill. A chill that even the blankets would not be able to assist with solving.
Sunday morning they headed on the road again towards home, the distant quiet and uneasy feeling following right along. Tuesday came and they were on the road again, this time going places they’ve never been. Seeing things they’ve never seen and this continued for her for seven days straight.
Seven days not a soul knew of her travels or that she was thinking it’s hard to be a woman giving all your love to just one man. You’ll have good times and he’ll have bad times but you stand by your man.
She would return home each evening thinking HELLO Walls,how’d things go for you today? Don’t you miss him? Since he UP and slipped away. After dinner and nightly routine she would be accepting the feeling of HELLO Darkness my old friend. I’ve come to talk to you again. As she drifted in and out of sleep through each LONG night.
There is an old saying, ” life is to short for________.” Well this could cover a multitude of things, I would like to express my opinion on four things this woman views as meaningless waste of time. This is OF course just one woman’s view. I apologize right up front if this post offends your point of view. These four things consist of: Gossip, Horoscopes, Reality Shows and the drama of social networking.
Gossip we are warned in the Bible to stay away from people who gossip and guard our words when we speak. Even if you do not believe in or read the Bible these are wise words. Why would you want to spread things you know nothing about; about a neighbor OR worse have someone do the same thing about you. This in my opinion includes gossip magazines…why spend hard earned money to read something about a person you actually know nothing about?
Horoscopes, I personally don’t even read them, again rather your a believer in God or not you and no one else are able to predict the future. Each person has a uniqueness about them and some days the choices you make affect the outcome. Again this is my opinion of meaningless things life is to short to worry over.
Reality Shows, first of all there are too many of these drama filled shows that keeps people on the couch each and every day. Whatever happened to living real life? Playing and laughing with kids and grandchildren. We all complain about taking a vacation from the job or AT least getting home for the weekend then we give our time to other people’s drama.
Last but not least is social networking. How do you use it these days compared to when you first signed up? I used to use it very rarely..actually people use to say I needed to post more. Now I use it for corresponding with blogs and my followers. I have met interesting people over past year through my blog but as soon as swimming and fishing and outdoor activities begin I can go days without even thinking about the drama on social networking. I have a phone and if it’s important it will ring.
In conclusion these are just one woman’s opinions about meaningless things that life is to short to worry over. Feedback is always welcome, please respect I am an individual with opinions just as I will return the same respect to you. Speak Out